Emotional Regulation: Helping Children Manage Big Feelings
- Amy's Angels Health Care Team
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
Emotions can be significant, messy, and overwhelming especially for children on the autism spectrum. From frustration after school to sensory overload in public spaces, learning how to manage emotions is a key part of your child’s growth.
But they can’t do it alone.
Your role as a parent is crucial in this process. That’s where co-regulation comes in.
What Is Co-Regulation?
Co-regulation means using your calm to help your child find theirs. Instead of expecting a child to calm down on their own, you model it first.
👩👦 Sit nearby without demanding words.
💛 Match their breathing with yours slow and steady.
🧩 Use soft language: “I’m here. Let’s take a breath together.”
Tools to Support Emotional Regulation
1. Deep-Breathing Visuals
Visuals give kids something to focus on during dysregulation. Try printable breathing cards, like “square breathing” or “smell the flower, blow the candle.”
2. Calm-Down Kits
Create a small bin with sensory tools your child can reach for when emotions rise. Include:
Noise-canceling headphones
Fidget toys
Chewable jewelry
Weighted lap pad
Visual timer
Favorite book or calming scent (like lavender lotion)
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3. Predictable Routines
The more your child knows what’s coming, the safer they feel. Try using a visual schedule or countdown timer for transitions at home.
Don’t Forget: Regulating Yourself Comes First
You don’t need to stay perfectly calm every time but pausing, breathing, and modeling regulation shows your child what’s possible. You are your child’s safe space.
If you’re not sure where to begin, talk to your child’s therapist or reach out to our team. At Amy’s Angels, we’ve been helping families manage emotional regulation and life skills since 2015.
We see the work you’re doing.
It matters.
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